Body Language

Body language is a whole other realm of awareness. There's a quote that intrigues me to no end: "People may not tell you how they feel about you, but they will always show you. PAY ATTENTION." That can lead to a dangerous road of over-analysis, but don't go there. Just be aware of how people respond to different stimuli. If you pay enough attention, you will become emotionally mature. 


If I make myself smaller (slouch, fold arms, cross legs, etc.) then I do not want to be noticed. If I make myself bigger (sit up straight, shoulders back, stand with legs shoulder-width apart) then I want to be noticed and I feel more confident. Power stance is a concept that seems 100% cheesy and silly. Right up until you try it. 

Before a high-pressure situation, do not be sitting down, hunched over. Stand. Put your hands on your hips and keep your shoulders rolled back. It will boost endorphins and will decrease cortisol levels. This is a tried-and-true concept from a TED talk by Amy Cuddy. (Available on Netflix). It's best to stand in the power pose in private, so as not to weird out the general public. 

I think the best way of assuring a confident mindset is to be intelligent. There are many levels of intelligence. Spatially-intelligent, gramatically-intelligent, sports-intelligent. Whatever your interests are, know it. Then be confident enough in your area of study that you can be humble and open to learning from others about their areas of interest, so as to gain intelligence in another thing. 

Bodylanguagesuccess.com is an informal blog that evaluates and analyzes the body language of different people. Facial expressions are tell-all secret divulgers when understood properly. Learn the tricks for when someone is lying (look up and to the left to access creative part of the brain to make up something). People who blush easily are considered sincere. When standing, feet point towards the object of desire or interest.