People have auras of power. Power is strongest when it easily given and returned. Power is slightly weaker when it is constantly taken. Power is weak when no power is given or gained.
The comedian Brian Regan can be termed as powerful, but not a threatening power. As a comedian, he often distorts his body and facial expressions into bizarre expressions that make him less attractive (giving power). He often receives laughter and applause (he receives the power they give). There is a balanced flow between people giving of their focus and physically expressing appreciation (clapping and laughing), and Brian Regan continually puts himself in vulnerable positions by putting a lot of energy into his jokes. There is a circular flow of power.
Someone looking directly at someone else is giving them power. If the 2nd person is looking at the floor, they are absorbing the power. If they are contributing to a better balance of power, they will nod or make movements or eye contact at key points in the communication.
Boredom is a way to gain power and establish identity. To illustrate this concept, imagine the scene in Tron when Quorra brings Sam Flynn back to "headquarters" she is 1)gorgeous 2)in a futuristic environment 3)lounges casually on an electric-lit couch. She absorbs her environment because she is "one" with her environment. She doesn't acknowledge it, instead directing her focus to Sam's amazement at the environment (giving away his power). It illustrates a part of her identity, she doesn't recognize it as anything out of the ordinary. She absorbs the power of being in an interesting environment that does not draw her attention because it is part of her life. (receives power based on "coolness" of environment, holding our attention, but below the qualifications of her attention) She gives some of her power to Sam by watching him while his attention is elsewhere.
Essentially, it is draining to be around "high-power" personalities who consistently take power from those around them. They may be termed as "obnoxious", "gregarious", "intense". They seek to keep the attention and focus on them (take power). Those who only listen only give of their power.
Those who listen give of power, however there is a balancing response when people feel appreciated by the listeners and listen well in response. There are some quiet people who give of power and then when they try to speak, they are ignored. They stay at low levels of power. When a quiet person speaks and the group listens intently to catch every word and then has a big reaction, they give power back to the quiet and originally low-power person. I have recognized this in my husband. I sometimes worry that because he is soft-spoken, people will talk over him when he speaks. However, I've noticed the people have an intense focus and actively listen (nod head at key points, raise eyebrows in agreement) to him. He exerts minimal effort, but he has the respect of the listeners. Rather than fight for attention (give power), he waits patiently for a moment when people want to know his opinion (they give him power).
TTFN,
Court
The comedian Brian Regan can be termed as powerful, but not a threatening power. As a comedian, he often distorts his body and facial expressions into bizarre expressions that make him less attractive (giving power). He often receives laughter and applause (he receives the power they give). There is a balanced flow between people giving of their focus and physically expressing appreciation (clapping and laughing), and Brian Regan continually puts himself in vulnerable positions by putting a lot of energy into his jokes. There is a circular flow of power.
Someone looking directly at someone else is giving them power. If the 2nd person is looking at the floor, they are absorbing the power. If they are contributing to a better balance of power, they will nod or make movements or eye contact at key points in the communication.
Boredom is a way to gain power and establish identity. To illustrate this concept, imagine the scene in Tron when Quorra brings Sam Flynn back to "headquarters" she is 1)gorgeous 2)in a futuristic environment 3)lounges casually on an electric-lit couch. She absorbs her environment because she is "one" with her environment. She doesn't acknowledge it, instead directing her focus to Sam's amazement at the environment (giving away his power). It illustrates a part of her identity, she doesn't recognize it as anything out of the ordinary. She absorbs the power of being in an interesting environment that does not draw her attention because it is part of her life. (receives power based on "coolness" of environment, holding our attention, but below the qualifications of her attention) She gives some of her power to Sam by watching him while his attention is elsewhere.
Essentially, it is draining to be around "high-power" personalities who consistently take power from those around them. They may be termed as "obnoxious", "gregarious", "intense". They seek to keep the attention and focus on them (take power). Those who only listen only give of their power.Those who listen give of power, however there is a balancing response when people feel appreciated by the listeners and listen well in response. There are some quiet people who give of power and then when they try to speak, they are ignored. They stay at low levels of power. When a quiet person speaks and the group listens intently to catch every word and then has a big reaction, they give power back to the quiet and originally low-power person. I have recognized this in my husband. I sometimes worry that because he is soft-spoken, people will talk over him when he speaks. However, I've noticed the people have an intense focus and actively listen (nod head at key points, raise eyebrows in agreement) to him. He exerts minimal effort, but he has the respect of the listeners. Rather than fight for attention (give power), he waits patiently for a moment when people want to know his opinion (they give him power).
TTFN,
Court
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